I am getting super personal on the blog today with my husband, because today is the 7th anniversary of our first date! I can’t believe that it’s been seven years since I first laid eyes on Torrance in person and immediately became smitten with him. So much has happened since then – Reign, Miss USA, Renly and Daenerys (our cats), so much international travel, our engagement, our wedding, our marriage, buying our first home, living abroad, creating/running this site and successful business together – and I wouldn’t change any of it for anything.
Some of you are already familiar with the story of how we met (for those who don’t know, check out my post on it here). To sum up, we met via Twitter in May 2010. I am a huge history nerd, and so I began watching the show The Tudors back in 2007 religiously. In the fourth season, which aired in 2010, Torrance made his debut in the premiere episode. Back then, Twitter was really the only social media platform (besides Facebook) to communicate, and Torrance did a search on The Tudors to see who was watching (as actors typically do). He noticed my tweets mentioning I was watching the show, and so he began to follow me. I was both shocked and giddy to see Torrance was now following me on Twitter, as of course I knew who he was and I was honored he was now following me. After the shock wore off, I followed him back and we struck up conversations via direct message to each other.
After a few months of flirtatious messages and getting to know each other online, Torrance mentioned he was headed to LA for a little bit. Hold on, let me back up. When he mentioned he was headed to LA and asked me if it would be possible for me to meet up with him and go out to dinner, I was out to eat with my dad and stepmom. When I read that message, I gasped out loud. They both laughed hysterically (and feared for my safety a bit) as I pretty much ran into the street and danced, shouting “HE ASKED ME OUT!” Coincidentally, I was also headed to LA the following week (I was living with my dad in San Francisco at the time) to hunt for my new apartment and meet up with my new modeling agency. We planned on connecting when we were both in the City of Angels and so we exchanged phone numbers. Clearly, Torrance was stalking me because he saw on my Twitter account a photo I posted of from when I drove past Six Flags Magic Mountain. He knew I was on my way to LA. He immediately texted me asking if I was free that evening (my first evening in LA after a six hour drive from my dad’s house) and that he wanted to take me to a sushi restaurant in Larchmont Village. Since I was super anxious to meet him, I said yes (despite being exhausted) and immediately began counting the hours until we would finally meet in person.
It’s funny to look back on our first date, because this could have totally been an episode of Catfish. I was taking a huge risk in meeting someone online in person, and I know my dad was a bit skeptical. But when Tor texted me that he was downstairs waiting to drive me to our date (yes, he was adamant about picking me up), I ran down the steps with my heart fluttering with the sensation of a million butterflies. When I turned the corner and saw Torrance standing by the car waiting to open the door for me, I had a feeling I have only ever felt once in my life and it was at that moment. I felt a sense of excitement, admiration, trust, and giddiness. I will never forget seeing him standing there with the biggest grin on his shaved face, wearing a graphic tee under a sharp blazer, as he opened the door to bring me to our first date.
Our sushi date lasted hours. We laughed so much and shared all kinds of stories. It felt like I had known him for ages. We had so much in common, and I felt like myself with him. I felt comfortable, happy, and I felt I didn’t need to hide anything. The sushi restaurant was closing, but we didn’t want our first date to end. We headed to a cafe in LA that we knew would be open late, and we continued our conversations as we shared a chocolate soufflé (now that’s what we eat every year on our anniversary of our first date). We talked a lot about history, as I am a big reader of history books and he starred in The Tudors.
Our first date went so well, it ended just after 3 am. He drove me home and asked to see me again the next day if I wasn’t busy. I had an agency meeting and a few castings, but I knew I wanted to see him again. But we didn’t just see each other the next day… we saw each other the next day, and the next day, and the next day until our first date ended up lasting 8 straight days! We couldn’t get enough of each other from the start, and on our second day of hanging out, he was already introducing me to his friends. From the very beginning, I knew he was going to be someone very special in my life. I am such a girly-girl and really wanted to believe in love at first sight. Until then, I had never experienced that. I thought it only happened in movies. But on that warm July evening in 2010, I felt it. It’s indescribable. I was smitten with him right away, and I knew in my gut he would be in my life for a long time to come. I think I knew all along that that was the night I had met my future husband. I wish I could explain it more to you all, but the feeling in my heart was so indescribable. It felt like fate. It felt meant to be. And I will spend the rest of my life with this man because that’s what was written for us.
Reflecting back on the last 7 years is one of my favorite things to do. I love that from the very beginning, everything has felt completely natural. We both get to be our goofy selves. I love his nerd-iness when it comes to tech and he loves my nerd-iness when it comes to history. We both share a love of politics (though I tend to keep politics off my social media; can’t say the same for Tor though!), we both share a love of food, we both share a love of travel and adventure, we both share a love for books, we both share a love for European style, and of course we both share a love for cats. I’m a firm believer in things happening for a reason, and despite many years of kids in school teasing me for my obsession with history, it’s because of history that I met the man who has my heart. Flash forward seven years, and we are now happily married settling into our own home together and running The A List.
Thanks to my love of history (and using Twitter), I met my soulmate. Happy 7 years together, my love. I cannot wait to see where life takes us next, because living life with you is my absolute favorite and I couldn’t imagine living my life any other way. I love you.